Name withheld
El Paso Texas, USA
Inquiry: Shalom Pâqid Yirmәyâhu, ha-Tzadiq,

To petition the Netzarim Beit Din and be recognized as a Netzarim, it is written that we must leave behind our former religion, culture, peoplehood, relatives and friends in order to be adopted into the religion, culture and peoplehood of Israel. My question is in regards to our relatives, specifically parents and siblings. I call both my parents once a week to check on their health and see how they are doing, am I not allowed to do that anymore? Are they allowed to visit me or me them? If a parent pass away and I do not attend their funeral, am I allowed to comfort the remaining parent or sibling at their home?

Since I am married, if my spouse does not approve me to give his information to you about him, would that prevent me from becoming a Netzarim?

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What that means is that you are orienting to a new family and religion: Yi•s^ә•râ•eilꞋ  and Tor•âhꞋ . Whenever you must choose between your previous family and friends, on the one hand, or your new family of Yi•s^ә•râ•eilꞋ , its culture and practice of Tor•âhꞋ , then you must never compromise your primary commitment to Yi•s^ә•râ•eilꞋ , its culture and keeping Tor•âhꞋ  – and relatives and friends will force such choices on you. They say they won't, and they are sincere. But they don't realize what's involved and they will force such choices on you; and they will be offended, livid and intolerant with you for differing with them on such issues they never realized would become an issue.

You are not required to "cut off" relations with them. In fact, such an unkind and uncharitable position violates Tor•âhꞋ . You should be concerned about your parents and visit them as they are willing to accommodate your Tor•âhꞋ  practice. But the mitz•wâhꞋ  of havdâl•âhꞋ  necessarily results in the empirical fact that everyone who makes this transition soon faces an ultimatum from friends and relatives; and choosing to keep Tor•âhꞋ  results in friends and relatives cutting you off because they refuse to accommodate your practice of Tor•âhꞋ  – which you cannot compromise.

Regarding a parent's funeral, etc. is covered in one of the books of our Khav•rutꞋ â course. You're asking FAQs that are answered in our Khav•rutꞋ â. Complete the course and you'll find it answers most of your questions—before asking here.

Since your spouse isn't interested in keeping Tor•âhꞋ , we have no interest in information about him.

I don't see where you've submitted a book report on The Conflict of the Church and the Synagogue, a Study in the Origins of Antisemitism or Who Are the Netzarim? Live-Link (e-WAN LL). You need to complete these before we can proceed further.